Let Me Ask You A Question . . .
If I were to invest in you this year by getting you a personal coach and a support team, what would you want to improve, change, or grow in your own life? Would you get in shape? Would you learn a new cooking skill, make financial plans, or develop home improvement skills? What if you could invest in the most important human relationship in your life: your marriage?
This one might give you pause . . . Relationships can be tricky to improve or repair because they involve the hearts of others, and we might be under the impression that it will require massive efforts and changes. But, just maybe, good things can come when you have the right information, good support, and the right adjustments.
Wisdom from an Unexpected Source . . .
A few years ago, my family moved into a new home, and the lawn was in great disrepair. Large bare patches and lots of weeds made us cringe at the thought of spending a large sum of money to bring the lawn back to health. We called a friend who was a professional landscaper for an honest opinion, and he walked the lawn with a careful and studied eye. When he walked up, we prepared ourselves for the bad news. All he said was, “Well, I’ll send a crew out to mow it on a weekly basis.” Foolishly, I tried to dig for bad news. “Don’t we need to re-sod and replant?” With the patience of someone who knows what they’re doing, he replied, “No, just keep it mowed, watered, and weeded. You’ll be surprised how the healthy grass will grow if you’ll just do the little things and give it a chance. Eventually, it will outgrow the unhealthy parts.” And just like that, over the next few years, our lawn steadily began to flourish and bloom.
An Invitation . . .
Our marriages are very similar to this lawn. Over time, spouses can disconnect, develop patterns of unhealthy conflict, or even just feel like we’re in a dry season. We may want to improve things, but knowing which changes to make and how to make them can seem daunting. However, remember my first question. What could you improve if you had a coach and a community to help you as you made small but significant investments into your marriage relationship? I’d love to personally invite you to Marriage Core. Every Tuesday night, the Marriage Core community gathers to learn how to make unique and significant investments into our marriages. If you come, you’ll have the opportunity to have a coach couple get to know you and your spouse and share from their own lives and experiences. You will also have the opportunity to be encouraged and cheered on by a community of couples in a small group setting that will share in your journey as they invest in their own marriages. In the end, little changes over time can lead to huge results. Imagine what your marriage will look like just a few months from now.
