Overcome Over-Parenting

Parenting Pathway Podcast Volume 1.2

In this Parenting Pathway Podcast, Pastor Dave Carl has invited Young Adults Associate Pastor Brandon Fletcher and Student Ministries Associate Pastor Nathan Kocurek to talk about what they see in their ministries as the kids raised by helicopter and lawnmower parents start to reach adulthood.

They share in this podcast that most of these young adults were raised by parents with the best intentions to protect them from harm, shield them from the realities of the world we live in, and push them to excel in something as long as they were the best.  All this sheltering and pushing has created a generation of young adults who are not prepared for the consequences of real life actions, and are often surprised when they find out they are not the best, or little value for the years of hard work.  This first brush with reality as an adult is made harder by the lack of experience usually gained through their teenage years. These young adults usually lack the skills, life experience, and character strength to overcome the obstacles they are facing for the first time as adults.

It is easy to think this does not apply to me, but there is not a parent in the world who has not stepped in when they probably should have stayed back. Letting go and letting God parent your child through life’s ups and downs is so challenging but has huge rewards on the other side.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

This week, we want to encourage you step back and leave room to allow our kids to face tough challenges head-on. Challenge your kids to learn to lean on God for parenting (not us parents). Life is an adventure in learning to love God and love others, so let’s encourage them to crave that adventure.

Authors

  • Dave Carl

    Dave Carl is the Family Ministries Pastor at Stonebriar Community Church and is responsible for the ministry focusing on children birth through high school graduation and the parents who love them. With a ministry philosophy based on Luke 10:27, his primary focus is to give parents the skills to raise kids who truly love Jesus and want to serve others. Dave has a passion for ministering to families in crisis in our community. He has spent several years pouring into fathers and husbands and helping them learn that they need community, were designed to guard and protect, and that they really can be the spiritual leaders of their family.

    Dave and his wife of 30 plus years, Cathy, have two adult children and one in college and grandparents to three amazing children. They are completely in love with these new member of their family. Dave is an avid woodworker and loves to write. He sees all stories in the form of pictures, and he would love to connect with you!

  • Nathan Kocurek

    Emerging from the depths of the late 1970s, Nathan Kocurek spent his formative years under the influence of Hall & Oates, Duran Duran, and other notables while listening to KRBE in Houston on the clock radio beside his bed. Nathan was influenced to love Jesus by the example of his young single mom, and he grew up with a love for God but an incomplete understanding of discipleship. As a result, as a teenager, he indulged in a relentless and, at times, reckless pursuit of social and athletic achievements, seeking to assuage an innermost feeling of emptiness that he could not escape. Finally, by God’s grace, the Spirit of the Lord made it clear to him that none but Jesus could satisfy what he was lacking. The answer had been there all along. Later, Nathan married the girl of his dreams and they ran off to California, had two sons, and returned to Texas where they adopted their sweet daughter. Having served as a Student Minister at two previous churches over the past 18 years, Nathan and his wife, Marie, are now thrilled to follow the calling of Christ at Stonebriar Community Church.

  • Brandon Fletcher

    As Associate Pastor of Family Ministries at Stonebriar Community Church, Brandon helps parents and their kids love God and love others.

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